Autism Treatment Strategies and Parenting Tips
There are many things parents can do to help children with autism overcome their challenges. But it's also important to make sure you get the support you need. When you're looking after a child with autism, taking care of yourself is not an act of selfishness—it's a necessity. Being emotionally strong allows you to be the best parent you can be to your child in need. These parenting tips can help by making life with an autistic child easier.
A parent’s guide to autism treatment and support
If you've recently learned that your child
has or might have an autism spectrum disorder, you're probably wondering
and worrying about what comes next. No parent is ever prepared to hear
that a child is anything other than happy and healthy, and a diagnosis
of autism can be particularly frightening. You may be unsure about how
to best help your child or confused by conflicting treatment advice. Or
you may have been told that autism is an incurable, lifelong condition,
leaving you concerned that nothing you do will make a difference.
While it is true that autism is not something
a person simply "grows out of," there are many treatments that can help
children learn new skills and overcome a wide variety of developmental
challenges. From free government services to in-home behavioral therapy
and school-based programs, assistance is available to meet your child's
special needs. With the right treatment plan, and a lot of love and
support, your child can learn, grow, and thrive.
Don’t wait for a diagnosis
As the parent of a child with autism or related developmental delays, the best thing you can do is to start treatment right away. Seek help as soon as you suspect something’s wrong. Don't wait to see if your child will catch up later or outgrow the problem. Don't even wait for an official diagnosis. The earlier children with autism spectrum disorder get help, the greater their chance of treatment success. Early intervention is the most effective way to speed up your child's development and reduce the symptoms of autism.
When your child has autism: Tips for parents
- Learn about autism. The more you know about autism spectrum disorders, the better equipped you’ll be to make informed decisions for your child. Educate yourself about the treatment options, ask questions, and participate in all treatment decisions.
- Become an expert on your child. Figure out what triggers your kid’s “bad” or disruptive behaviors and what elicits a positive response. What does your autistic child find stressful? Calming? Uncomfortable? Enjoyable? If you understand what affects your child, you’ll be better at troubleshooting problems and preventing situations that cause difficulties.
- Accept your child, quirks and all. Rather than focusing on how your autistic child is different from other children and what he or she is “missing,” practice acceptance. Enjoy your kid’s special quirks, celebrate small successes, and stop comparing your child to others. Feeling unconditionally loved and accepted will help your child more than anything else.
- Don’t give up. It’s impossible to predict the course of an autism spectrum disorder. Don’t jump to conclusions about what life is going to be like for your child. Like everyone else, people with autism have an entire lifetime to grow and develop their abilities.
Helping children with autism tip 1: Provide structure and safety
Learning all you can about autism and getting
involved in treatment will go a long way toward helping your child.
Additionally, the following tips will make daily home life easier for
both you and your autistic child:
- Be consistent. Children with autism have a hard time adapting what they’ve learned in one setting (such as the therapist’s office or school) to others, including the home. For example, your child may use sign language at school to communicate, but never think to do so at home. Creating consistency in your child’s environment is the best way to reinforce learning. Find out what your child’s therapists are doing and continue their techniques at home. Explore the possibility of having therapy take place in more than one place in order to encourage your child to transfer what he or she has learned from one environment to another. It’s also important to be consistent in the way you interact with your child and deal with challenging behaviors.
- Stick to a schedule. Children with autism tend to do best when they have a highly-structured schedule or routine. Again, this goes back to the consistency they both need and crave. Set up a schedule for your child, with regular times for meals, therapy, school, and bedtime. Try to keep disruptions to this routine to a minimum. If there is an unavoidable schedule change, prepare your child for it in advance.
- Reward good behavior. Positive reinforcement can go a long way with children with autism, so make an effort to “catch them doing something good.” Praise them when they act appropriately or learn a new skill, being very specific about what behavior they’re being praised for. Also look for other ways to reward them for good behavior, such as giving them a sticker or letting them play with a favorite toy.
- Create a home safety zone. Carve out a private space in your home where your child can relax, feel secure, and be safe. This will involve organizing and setting boundaries in ways your child can understand. Visual cues can be helpful (colored tape marking areas that are off limits, labeling items in the house with pictures). You may also need to safety proof the house, particularly if your child is prone to tantrums or other self-injurious behaviors.
Helping children with autism tip 2: Find nonverbal ways to connect
Connecting with a child with autism can be
challenging, but you don’t need to talk in order to communicate and
bond. You communicate by the way you look at your child, the way you
touch him or her, and by the tone of your voice and your body language.
Your child is also communicating with you, even if he or she never
speaks. You just need to learn the language.
- Look for nonverbal cues. If you are observant and aware, you can learn to pick up on the nonverbal cues that children with autism use to communicate. Pay attention to the kinds of sounds they make, their facial expressions, and the gestures they use when they’re tired, hungry, or want something.
- Figure out the need behind the tantrum. It’s only natural to feel upset when you are misunderstood or ignored, and it’s no different for children with autism. When children with autism act out, it’s often because you’re not picking up on their nonverbal cues. Throwing a tantrum is their way communicating their frustration and getting your attention.
- Make time for fun. A child coping with autism is still a kid. For both children with autism and their parents, there needs to be more to life than therapy. Schedule playtime when your child is most alert and awake. Figure out ways to have fun together by thinking about the things that make your child smile, laugh, and come out of their shell. Your child is likely to enjoy these activities most if they don’t seem therapeutic or educational. There are tremendous benefits that result from your enjoyment of your child’s company and from your child’s enjoyment of spending unpressured time with you. Play is an essential part of learning and shouldn’t feel like work.
- Pay attention to your child’s sensory sensitivities. Many children with autism are hypersensitive to light, sound, touch, taste, and smell. Other children with autism are “under-sensitive” to sensory stimuli. Figure out what sights, sounds, smells, movements, and tactile sensations trigger your kid’s “bad” or disruptive behaviors and what elicits a positive response. What does your autistic child find stressful? Calming? Uncomfortable? Enjoyable? If you understand what affects your child, you’ll be better at troubleshooting problems, preventing situations that cause difficulties, and creating successful experiences.
Helping children with autism tip 3: Create a personalized autism treatment plan
With so many different autism treatments
available, and it can be tough to figure out which approach is right for
your child. Making things more complicated, you may hear different or
even conflicting recommendations from parents and doctors. When putting
together an autism treatment plan for your child, keep in mind that
there is no single treatment that will work for everyone. Each person on
the autism spectrum is unique, with different strengths and weaknesses.
Your child’s treatment should be tailored
according to his or her individual needs. You know your child best, so
it’s up to you to make sure those needs are being met. You can do that
by asking yourself the following questions:
A good autism treatment plan will:
- Build on your child's interests.
- Offer a predictable schedule.
- Teach tasks as a series of simple steps.
- Actively engage your child's attention in highly structured activities.
- Provide regular reinforcement of behavior.
Involve the parents.
- What are my child’s strengths?
- What are my child’s weaknesses?
- What behaviors are causing the most problems?
- What important skills is my child lacking?
- How does my child learn best (through seeing, listening, or doing)?
- What does my child enjoy and how can those activities be used in treatment?
Finally, keep in mind that no matter what
autism treatment plan is chosen, your involvement is vital to success.
You can help your child get the most out of treatment by working
hand-in-hand with the autism treatment team and following through with
the therapy at home.
Choosing autism treatments
When it comes to autism treatment, there are a
dizzying variety of therapies and approaches. Some autism therapies
focus on reducing problematic behaviors and building communication and
social skills, while others deal with sensory integration problems,
motor skills, emotional issues, and food sensitivities.
With so many choices, it is extremely
important to do your research, talk to autism treatment experts, and ask
questions. But keep in mind that you don't have to choose just one type
of therapy. The goal of autism treatment should be to treat all of your
child's symptoms and needs. This often requires a combined treatment
approach that takes advantage of many different types of therapy.
Common autism treatments include behavior
therapy, speech-language therapy, play-based therapy, physical therapy,
occupational therapy, and nutritional therapy.
Helping children with autism tip 4: Find help and support
Caring for a child with an autism spectrum
disorder can demand a lot of energy and time. There may be days when you
feel overwhelmed, stressed, or discouraged. Parenting isn’t ever easy,
and raising a child with special needs is even more challenging. In
order to be the best parent you can be, it’s essential that you take
care of yourself.
Don’t try to do everything on your own. You
don’t have to! There are many places that families of autistic kids can
turn to for advice, a helping hand, advocacy, and support:
- Autism support groups – Joining an autism support group is a great way to meet other families dealing with the same challenges you are. Parents can share information, get advice, and lean on each other for emotional support. Just being around others in the same boat and sharing their experience can go a long way toward reducing the isolation many parents feel after receiving a child’s autism diagnosis.
- Respite care – Every parent needs a break now and again. And for parents coping with the added stress of autism, this is especially true. In respite care, another caregiver takes over temporarily, giving you a break for a few hours, days, or even weeks. To find respite care options in your area, see Resources section below.
- Individual, Marital and or Family Counseling – If stress, anxiety, or depression is getting to you, you may want to see a therapist of your own. Therapy is a safe place where you can talk honestly about everything you’re feeling—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Marriage or family therapy can also help you work out problems that the challenges of life with an autistic child are causing in your spousal relationship or with other family members.
Free U.S. government services for children with autism
Under the U.S. federal law known as the
Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA), children with
disabilities—including those with autism spectrum disorders—are eligible
for a range of free or low-cost services. Under this provision,
children in need and their families may receive medical evaluations,
psychological services, speech therapy, physical therapy, parent
counseling and training, assisted technology devices, and other
specialized services.
Children under the age of 10 do not need an
autism diagnosis to receive free services under IDEA. If they are
experiencing a developmental delay (including delays in communication or
social development), they are automatically eligible for early
intervention and special education services.
Early intervention services (birth through age two)
Infants and toddlers through the age of two
receive assistance through the Early Intervention program. In order to
qualify, your child must first undergo a free evaluation. If the
assessment reveals a developmental problem, you will work with early
intervention treatment providers to develop an Individualized Family
Service Plan (IFSP). An IFSP describes your child’s needs and the
specific services he or she will receive.
For autism, an IFSP would include a variety
of behavior, physical, speech, and play therapies. It would focus on
preparing autistic kids for the eventual transition to school. Early
intervention services are typically conducted in the home or at a child
care center.
To locate local early intervention services
for your child, ask your pediatrician for a referral or use the
resources listed in the box to the right.
Special education services (age three and older)
Children over the age of three receive assistance through
school-based programs. As with early intervention, special education
services are tailored to your child’s individual needs. Children with
autism spectrum disorders are often placed with other
developmentally-delayed kids in small groups where they can receive more
individual attention and specialized instruction. However, depending on
their abilities, they may also spend at least part of the school day in
a regular classroom. The goal is to place kids in the least restrictive
environment possible where they are still able to learn.
If you’d like to pursue special education
services, your local school system will first need to evaluate your
child. Based on this assessment, an Individualized Education Plan (IEP)
will be created. An IEP outlines the educational goals for your child
for the school year. Additionally, it describes the special services or
aids the school will provide your child in order to meet those goals.
Know your child’s rights:
As the parent of an autistic child, you have a legal right to:
- Be involved in developing your child’s IEP from start to finish.
- Disagree with the school system’s recommendations.
- Seek an outside evaluation for your child.
- Invite anyone you want—from a relative to your child’s doctor—to be on the IEP team.
- Request an IEP meeting at any time if you feel your child’s needs are not being met.
- Free or low-cost legal representation if you can’t come to an agreement with the school.
